That voice in your head never stops
Your Inner Critic “You’re not good enough for this job.” “Everyone can see you’re faking it.” “You always mess things up.” “Who do you think you are?” Most people try to silence their inner critic through positive thinking or self-help mantras. But what if you’re fighting the wrong battle? What if your inner critic isn’t […]
You can feel completely alone in a room full of people
The Loneliness Epidemic In fact, some of the loneliest moments happen when you’re surrounded by others – sitting in meetings, at parties, even with family – but feeling like nobody really sees or understands you. Modern loneliness isn’t about being physically alone. It’s about being emotionally disconnected. We’re more “connected” than ever through technology, yet […]
The Meaning – Making Machine
Your brain is a storytelling machine that never stops running. Every experience gets woven into a narrative about who you are, what the world is like, and what everything means. The problem? Your brain prioritizes coherent stories over accurate ones. It would rather have a satisfying explanation than no explanation at all. So it fills […]
The Boundary Blueprint
You’ve been trained to be convenient for other people. Say yes when you mean no. Stay when you want to leave. Give when you’re empty. Smile when you’re hurting. Most of us learned early that our value came from being helpful, agreeable, and accommodating. We developed a chronic inability to disappoint others, even when it […]
The Emotional Weather System
You wouldn’t judge yourself for experiencing rain. You wouldn’t try to argue with a thunderstorm or feel ashamed of snow. Weather is temporary, natural, and constantly changing. You dress appropriately, take shelter when needed, and wait for it to pass. Your emotions work the same way – but somehow you’ve forgotten this. Instead of experiencing […]
The smartest thing you can say is “I don’t know” 🤷♀️
The Wisdom of Not Knowing “I don’t know.” Three words that make most people uncomfortable. Three words we’ve been trained to avoid at all costs. In school, “I don’t know” meant failure. In meetings, it suggests incompetence. In relationships, it feels like weakness. But here’s a radical thought: “I don’t know” might be the most […]
The Mirror Effect
The Mirror Effect That person who cuts you off in traffic. The coworker who always interrupts in meetings. Your friend who’s perpetually late. The family member who pushes all your buttons. Here’s a mind-bending possibility: they’re all your teachers. Not because they’re wise or enlightened, but because they’re showing you something about yourself you can’t […]
You’re spending energy you don’t have on people who don’t deserve it 💸
The Energy Economics Imagine your energy as currency. Every day, you wake up with a finite amount to spend. Where does it go? The coworker who complains constantly The family member who guilts you into visits The friend who only calls when they need something The mental loops about situations you can’t control The tasks […]
Why trying harder kills creativity (and what works instead) 🎨
The Creativity Paradox You sit down to create something amazing. You open the blank document. Pick up the paintbrush. Stare at the empty canvas. And then…nothing. The harder you try to be creative, the more elusive it becomes. Sound familiar? You’re experiencing one of the brain’s strangest quirks: creativity can’t be forced, only invited. Here’s […]
